| Much Ado about Nothing: A Tentative Exploration of Void States |
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| Congresses - 2004 Barcelona | |||
| Written by Paul Ashton | |||
| Sunday, 12 July 2009 21:46 | |||
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Paul Ashton So many of my patients have spoken, at one time or another, of “being in a void” and this talk originated in my attempting to understand what l felt they were describing and how that varied from person to person. At one time the void experience seems to be pathological, to be got rid of, and at another to be fundamental to any growth within the individual i.e. to be welcomed. My talk has nothing to do with Shakespeare, or his play, beyond the title and the fact that Shakespeare was an artist of the spoken word. Art, by which l mean any medium that expresses the symbolic, is the only language that can fully express the paradoxical nature of the void and so l will be illustrating this talk with images. What is the Void?
According to a Hindu creation story, before the world, before the sky, before space, there was nothing but ocean; a flat rolling lake that lapped the edges of emptiness and the void beyond. Reading this in reverse, the void is primary, beyond anything, an utter no-thingness; emptiness suggests where something is missing but it contains at least the idea of that which is missing; and ocean represents the first substance, the prima materia, out of which the known universe, space, sky, world, can be differentiated.
The void is a feature of all life’s stages and periods of transition. It extends backwards from birth and forward from death, and its winds are sensed at all times of change. Madness, grief, ecstasy, trauma, pain and the loss of relationships and of the known and meaningful, can all give rise to it. Mostly we stay away from the void, but there are those who flirt with it, extreme-sports fanatics for example, and those who assiduously seek it out in some spiritual journey, or are driven towards it in the individuation process.
It is impossible to become your-self without a mirroring object, “for whom you can be yourself”. It sometimes happens that the child feels that he should be someone-else to feel that he can be loved. A four-year-old girl was brought to therapy because she mimicked her older brother to such an extent that she called herself by his name, George. She somehow knew that her parents had wanted another George and it took some long months of therapy before she could tolerate her own self, A woman, whom I will call “Sarah”, felt, as a child, that her true individuality was not acknowledged. Her mother used to say to her “you and your grandmother and I are exactly the same”, and she denied any aspects of her daughter that did not fit in with that perilous sameness. In the presence of her mother Sarah felt empty of herself; “the void in the presence of the mother” is what Enid Balint called this state. The absence was where the experience of the Self ought to have been, or where the ego-Self axis had broken down.
In many of our societies it is the father who is absent, “At work” or “Gone fishing”, or being an older sibling not a father. When the personal father is absent the Archetypal father remains as a dominant. The Archetypal father image is not mediated and “father” may never be introjected on the human scale. As a young boy, a client of mine was put to bed at 5 in the afternoon so that he would not disturb “the tired man”, his father, on his return from work. He expressed a fantasy of searching for his father, going up to a door behind which he expected to find him, and opening it into an abyss. As Hollis articulates, boys, needing to identify with their fathers are often forced to identify with nothing, an absence. In South Africa the iniquitous Migrant Labour System resulted in numerous Black children being brought up empty of their own fathers, who had gone to work in the cities. Mothers too had to leave their children in the care of their families. One woman told me how she would desert her children at the end of her vacation at her home in the country. “I secretly take my bags to the bus-stop, then go home and tell the children that I’m just going to the shop. Then I get on the bus to Cape Town. “ She just disappeared from her children, … yet again. Astrid Berg describes how that wounding can be mitigated. A Xhosa mother was observed with her infant boy. During the observation she sang repeatedly to him, naming and describing him, and the members of his clan. In this patrilinear culture the clan is that of the father, extending laterally to his relations, and backwards in time to his ancestors. The mother’s song thus embedded this boy in his own history, particularly in relation to the masculine. For many Western children the family portrait gallery is empty. In many psychiatric conditions the void is a felt presence and there are many different experiences that may be described by patients as “being in a void”. In the borderline experience there is a fluctuation between the states of merger or abandonment, the loss of a sense of separateness because of “falling into” the other, alternating with the feeling of being too distant, so far away from the other that one is unreachable or forgotten. Common images are of being adrift on an ocean while a boat steams away, hurtling through dark space
ln severe Narcissistic patholog y, and in Bipolar disorder, there is an alternating identification with the Self or an alienation from it. Both these positions lead to a void experience, the first through a loss of individuality by identifying with a transpersonal archetype, and the second through a disconnection from any sense of meaningful contact within. The feeling is of “I am all there is” which suggests either, “I am everything”, or, “I am entirely alone”. A child dreamed of swaying on a thin bridge suspended between the earth and the moon,
Autistic defences serve to perpetuate the myth that the autist is the lonely sovereign of his universe.
The walling off of chaos or emptiness (both internal and external) can itself lead to a void state as it seals the individual away, both from contact with another and from his own imagination.
The lack of a wall can also be damaging. A 20 yr old male patient had been brought up by parents who were obsessed by the idea of improving the family’s financial situation through renovating houses. They did not live in one house and renovate another, they broke down and developed the house that they were living in at the time, fixing it up, not for themselves, but in order to sell it. The family moved 16 times in his first 18 years and my client felt that his parents’ minds were always on building and not on him.
Sometimes the defensive wall is to protect from loss or contain what may leak away. An analysand described her feeling state as like a bank balance that always teetered on the edge of being empty, she was able to function in her work as a therapist but when she returned home would feel unable to give any more, she was void of nurturant feeling. Another woman remembered how as a child she dreamt that she saw her mother stand over a drain-grating and leak away. Nothing but a grating between her and the void. Both needed rigid defences to protect them from depletion. In South Africa’s past, the oppressors were said to “have died or (be) dying, dehydrated of sympathetic sap.” One can say something similar about those with an Antisocial Personality disorder, they are empty of feeling for another; and about those who perpetrate war crimes who, The void implies a loss of ego awareness, and this may arise from different causes. These include the loss of the capacity to think, as in dementia, or in those situations where the thoughts are unthinkable and there is no-one to mediate their being thought. I am thinking here of victims of torture or of severe abuse, how are they to think about the perpetrators, what was done to them, or even their own reactions to the trauma. Dissociation and repression, two ways of not being aware, both result in being void of one’s wholeness. So sometimes the void is generated as a refuge from what is, like knowing that “my parents are mad or bad”. At other times or for other people it is the void itself that is most intolerable. A South African woman of colour, who had been active in the struggle, was arrested, interrogated and tortured. She was taken from that situation and placed in the “White” hospital section of the prison, and just left there, alone. There were no other “patients”, it being a very underused section of the prison in those Apartheid days, and she was convinced that she had just been dumped there and forgotten. The feeling of being in the wrong place, (she was not white after all), not being present in anybody’s mind, and the emptiness, were more intolerable than the abuse that preceded it.
One of the functions of self-harming behaviour may be to keep the void at bay. And depression, which is often described in terms such as “the pit of depression” or “the abyss of despair”, while itself a void experience, may be an attempt, also, to ward off emptiness. Fear is a normal and healthy response to the void that implies an awareness of what is. To be frightened and yet continue as undefensively as possible with life’s journey is the right attitude and starts to fill the void.
As we explore the void with our rational intellects we lose our terror of it; understanding it seems to obliterate it. Science and logic defend us against the emptiness by seeming to limit the vastness of the unknown. But what they delineate is only a tiny area of the vastness, not the vastness itself. In fact too much “knowing” encloses us, walls us off from the spread waters of the imagination, the unconscious. As Tennyson puts it in the Ancient Sage:
The artist’s creativity, on the other hand, that knows it does not know, adds something new even to our vision of the void. It opens wider our doors of perception and adds to the created universe.
Images or symbols foster wonder, and wonder, the acknowledgement of something bigger than us, fills the void, not with finality but with possibility. For me, Jung’s idea, that: “The symbol is alive only so long as it is pregnant with meaning.” And that it dies “once its meaning has been born out of it”, is close to Bion’s concept of the “saturated” idea. The symbol is only meaningful, only remains a symbol, if there is space in it for something as yet unknown. “All great art has a hollow in it,” expresses a similar idea. (Thomas Moore) The symbol contains a cycle of wonder, looking, listening and questioning, that leads to awe that leads to wonder and so on and on. Facts, on the other hand, lead to conclusions and opinions and a certainty that creates a secure cosmos but exacerbates the emptiness beyond it.
By staying close I mean that we take seriously the enormity of the unknown and at the same time value what we have come to know. As we fall out of each area of the known and into each new section of the void, if we can look, listen and feel, the vast shoreline of wonder may open up ahead of us, filling us with awe.
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