For Mario Jacoby's Funeral from the IAAP
The passing of Mario Jacoby is a great loss for the entire IAAP. Mario was a wonderful analyst, author, teacher, supervisor, and musician; all round a highly gifted individual with great capacities for relationship. In his various roles he deeply touched the lives of many in the broader IAAP community, which has been diminished by his passing.
So much could be said about Mario that it is hard to know where to begin. Mario was born in Leipzig. At the age of 4 his parents divorced and he was sent him to live with relatives, initially in Zurich but eventually with an uncle in St. Gallen. His father stayed in Leipzig and would eventually be one of the victims of the holocaust. His mother went to Palestine where she hoped her son would eventually join her. The outbreak of World War II made that impossible and forced Mario to stay with his relatives where he studied to become a violinist. These early life events had an indelible impact on Mario and would leave him with a great interest in and sensitivity to the psychological significance of childhood attachments. As a musician Mario was plagued by stage fright. A fellow student at the time and later Jungian colleague, Tony Frey, mentioned he was seeing a Jungian analyst by the name of Jolanda Jacobi. This prompted Mario to contact her. Mario would often regale friends with the humorous account of their first telephone contact with each one stating their name in greeting till finally Jolande Jacobi understood they had the same surname. This was the beginning of a long and winding path that would eventually lead Mario to the University of Zurich to do a doctoral program in pedagogy and then to train to become a Jungian analyst.
From the start, Mario was an active member of the Jungian community. He served for a short period as President of AGAP and then as President of SGAP and was a member of the Curatorium of the C. G. Jung Institute for almost twenty years. Mario was an ardent supporter of the IAAP and worked actively with a number of Developing Groups from East European countries and was always available as an examiner for the intermediate and final exams to routers from the around the globe. With the exception of the Congress in Montreal where, due to his health he was unable to attend, Mario had the distinction of being the only person to have attended all IAAP Congresses from the beginning.
Mario Jacoby's publications and lectures on such topics as "Longing for Paradise", transference, narcissism, shame and contemporary infant research were enlightening and touched people profoundly. Thanks to the sensitive and nuanced manner with which Mario treated each of these subjects, he managed to create resonance at a deep level with his lectors and his audience. His recognition of the centrality and primacy of the analytic relationship led him, through his exploration of the symbolic and relational aspects of the transference and counter-transference, to bridge the theoretical differences between the more classical Zurich approach and the more psychoanalytic, developmental London approach to the understanding of psyche and analytic work with analysands. These are now part of his legacy to the development of Jungian thought.
Though a prolific writer, his heart was clearly most at home in his clinical work. Mario's natural sensitivity and tremendous capacity for empathy made it possible for him to connect to people with simplicity and authenticity. Never bound by collective norms and expectations, Mario worked tirelessly to foster the growth and development of the innate capacities of his analysands and was himself a shining example of someone having the courage to truly be who he was. It is undoubtedly thanks to his capacity to truly recognize and value the uniqueness of each person that he is loved and cherished by so many friends, colleagues, candidates and former analysands around the world.
It is with great sadness that we take our leave of Mario. We shall all miss his warm, gentle and loving presence and will always cherish the memory of Mario's bohemian spirit, his love of music, especially of opera, his joyful dancing and his hearty laugh. Mario's spirit will live on in the hearts and souls of the many people who had the privilege of knowing him.
May he rest in peace.
Joe Cambray, President, and Tom Kelly, President-Elect
For the IAAP
Dear AGAP Member,
It is with great sadness that we announce to you the passing of our dear friend, mentor and colleague, Mario Jacoby (27 August, 1925 - 1 October, 2011). He died peacefully on Saturday, October 1st, after a brief stay in hospice. While his death was not unexpected, it is nevertheless a shock for all of us who came to know him well as training candidates and then as analysts and colleagues. We will remember his warmth, humor and wit, wisdom, intelligence, kindness, generosity of spirit, and soulful presence. He has touched us all deeply. Just recently, he received with such joy the Liber Amicorum, a collection of remembrances and tributes honoring him from analysts who knew him well and loved him greatly. It is a fitting commemoration of a life well-lived. A full obituary will follow, but we wanted all of you to know the sad news as early as possible.
The burial will take place on Friday, 7 October 2011 at 14:00 at the Friedhof Zollikon, Wieslerstr. 51, Zollikon. The memorial service will be held immediately afterward in the churchyard hall. Instead of flowers Mario wished for donations to the Student Fund of ISAPZURICH: IBAN CH65 0483 5062 2208 7100 0.
On behalf of the Executive Committee,
John Desteian and Stacy Wirth, Co-Presidents
Mit grösster Trauer teilen wir Ihnen mit, dass unser lieber Freund, Mentor und Kollege, Mario Jacoby (27. August 1925 - 1. Oktober 2011), am Samstag den ersten Oktober nach einem kurzen Aufenthalt in Hospice friedlich entschlafen ist. Obwohl sein Ableben nicht ganz unerwartet kam, sind wir, die ihn einst als Ausbildungskandidat/in und später als Analytiker/in und Kolleg/in gut kannten, von seinem Tod tief betroffen. Wir erinnern uns gern an seine persönliche Wärme, seinen Sinn für Humor, seine Weisheit, seine Intelligenz, seine Grosszügigkeit, und sein seelenvolles Dasein. Er hat uns alle tief berührt. Noch vor wenigen Wochen freute er sich so herzlich, als er das Liber Amoricorum, eine Sammlung von Erinnerungen and Danksagungen von Analytikern, die ihn sehr gut persönlich kannten, erhielt. Es ist dies wohl das beste Tribut für ein wohl und voll gelebtes Leben. Ein ausführlicher Nachruf wird zu einem späteren Zeitpunkt folgen. Wir wollten aber, dass Sie diese traurige Mitteilung so bald wie möglich erhalten.
Die Erdbestattung findet statt am Freitag, 7. Oktober 2011, 14.00 Uhr im Friedhof Zollikon, Wieslerstr. 51, Zollikon. Anschliessend Abdankung in der Friedhofhalle. Statt Blumen zu spenden gedenke man des Studierendenfonds des ISAPZURICH IBAN CH65 0483 5062 2208 7100 0.
Im Namen des Vorstands
John Desteian und Stacy Wirth, Co-Präsidenten
AGAP Sekretariat - 8044 Zurich - Schweiz
Liebe Kolleginnen, liebe Kollegen,
Am vergangenen Samstag, 1. Oktober 2011, ist unser Ehrenmitglied Dr. Mario Jacoby nach kurzer Krankheit friedlich eingeschlafen. Traurig nehmen wir von einem liebenswürdigen Kollegen Abschied. Seine Verdienste um die Analytische Psychologie als Autor, Psychotherapeut und Dozent sind gross. Wir werden ihn in ehrendem Andenken behalten.
Die Erdbestattung findet am Freitag, 7. Oktober 2011, um 14.00 Uhr auf dem Friedhof Zollikon, Wieslerstrasse 51, Zollikon statt.
SCHWEIZERISCHE GESELLSCHAFT FÜR ANALYTISCHE PSYCHOLOGIE
Josef Marty, Präsident
Schweiz. Gesellschaft für Analytische Psychologie SGAP
CH - 3001 Bern
Tel. +41 031 381 66 12
Fax +41 031 381 66 14